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Welcome to Alexandra's House

Life is full of uncertainty with no guarantees. If the life expectancy of your unborn, newborn, or infant is limited, Alexandra’s House is here to help. Many services are provided directly through Alexandra’s House and others are coordinated through a variety of community resources. Residential care is available for those meeting specific criteria.

Alexandra’s House is a community based, all volunteer, peer-led perinatal hospice and infant care system for parents pregnant with babies with lethal or sub-lethal anomalies, for pregnancies that end unexpectedly at any point, from any cause, and for infants who die in the community, any cause. While its foundation is rooted in faith, its services offer a practical solution in meeting the time-intensive needs of families in these situations.

Alexandra’s House does not interfere with or substitute for any existing medical, social, or hospice agencies’ services. What it does is to help fill in the many gaps in care that do exist, as defined by those who have lived the experience of caring for a dying unborn or newborn baby. The ideal time to consult Alexandra’s House is at the time of diagnosis or loss: a) so parents are fully informed and b) to help alleviate some of the acute anxiety and very common feelings of isolation and abandonment. Alexandra’s House does not charge for its services nor does it accept contributions from people they serve.

Over 90% of our referrals come from the medical community – perinatologists, hospitals, doctor’s offices, sonographers, the community at large and through our website. We have followed families in America as far away as Alaska and have provided assistance in the UK, France, Germany, and New Zealand.

Services include: bringing meaning to suffering, assistance in grief resolution, parent-parent partnering, birth planning, funeral planning, long-term support, one to one and group meetings, pre-natal and post-natal housing, if required. If a baby survives and is dismissed from the hospital, the family and baby can stay here for the duration of their life. Professional nursing services are provided through a licensed hospice agency.

A Saint In Our Midst

By John C. Schmidt

My wife Jennifer and I have two healthy, active boys: Jacob, 6, and John Paul, 3.

In July 2006, when we learned that we had another child, we were excited and thought we knew exactly what to expect. However, at 13 weeks our obstetrician had difficulty detecting the baby’s heartbeat, so we had a sonogram. When Jennifer saw our gorgeous, tiny baby kicking away, all seemed fine.

Chase Hutton Ware

My husband David and I are profoundly sorry that you have come in search of information here, because that means you are facing a difficult road. Just know that you are not alone…and that you’ve come to the right place. Alexandra’s House is a wonderful haven for families and babies facing difficult challenges.

Everyone’s story is unique, as each precious life is. David and I just want to provide you with some information and knowledge that was helpful to us.

Payton’s Story by her Mommy and Daddy

Payton touched more people in her eight months (and two days) than most of us will in our whole life. She was such a little fighter; there wasn’t a day that she didn’t struggle just to stay with us.

Dear Andrew and Amber

I will lend you for a little moment a child of mine
For you to love while she lives a little time.
She will be with you a few months you shall see
But please take care of her until I take her back with me
She will bring her charms to gladden you, and her stay will be brief
You will have her lovely memories as comfort for your grief.
I cannot promise how long she will stay, since all from earth have to return
But there are lessons she will bring for you all to learn

Daniel’s Story

I struggled for several years, in and out of college over a seven year span, to uncover the meaning and purpose of my life and what I was suppose to do with it. The only problem was that I was trying to do this in my own strength aside from God. At the peak of what I considered to be a successful time in my life, God’s plan began to reveal itself.